Dating in real life is hard enough, but when you venture into the world of online dating, you add an entirely new dimension to your dating game: the online profile.
And that profile can be surprisingly tricky to craft.
So what leads people to include those negative statements on their profile in the first place? Often, those people have been through disappointment or heartbreak, and are using that negativity as a defense mechanism.
Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance.
From far too young, I longed for the affection, safety, and intimacy I anticipated with a wife. I experimented too much with our hearts and allowed things to go too far. And now my singleness is a regular reminder that I messed up, missed opportunities, or did it wrong. Maybe all the suggestions and advice you’ve collected has become a confusing mess of good-intentioned contradictions and ambiguity.
Sadly, my immature and unhealthy desires predictably did much more harm than good. Maybe dating has been hard for you too, for these reasons or others. It’s enough to leave you like an eight-year-old, asking, “Mom, where do weddings come from?
” The vision of marriage we see in God’s word — the beautiful, radical display of God’s infinite, persevering love for sinners — makes it worth it to date, and date well.
It seems there are weeks that are slower-paced and the waters seem to be calm. Torrential winds arrive and the speed of life picks up, almost blowing us over day after day, week after week.